Why I *Never* Pay Full Price

I recently posted the below image on Instagram as the dress I’d bought early in 2020 had been reduced from £69 to £6.90! What a saving I thought. My kind of floaty dress in a light fabric, ideal for the day or night with a feminine feel all at a snip of a price. It wasn’t until later that I began to wonder about HOW the brand can discount an item by so much? How much money does it actually take to make the dress? Not a lot I imagine if they can afford to lose so much on it.

This made me start thinking about the value in most of the products and clothes we see everyday. I have always been a notorious sale shopper and hardly anything in my house is full price. If a discount can be found I will find it. If it can’t then I’ll more often than not just leave it. There are of course some exceptions to the rule and I’ll go into these later.

There is always company profit to be made or else the business wouldn’t be surviving but often these profits are so big that a product can be reduced 2 maybe 3 times and STILL make a profit.

Ever bought something and then seen it go into the sale a week later? Yeah, it sucks.

Looking after the pennies

Saving £20-£30 on something could mean a weekly shop or a meal out. Even saving a few pounds could be a take away coffee when really needed. A saving of pennies could even all add up. And those savings across a year or two could mean a break away. The pennies do better in our own pockets than the top bosses who probably have plenty.

More and more I also find myself thinking about not only sale items but finding the same or a very similar item second hand. People are always selling things for one reason or another and sometimes in excellent condition.

Do I need it?

This is a question I have been asking myself more and more. Whenever I see something that I would love for either my wardrobe or my home I have been asking myself ‘do I need it?’ And the answer most commonly is no. The question before the impulse buy could be saving me anything from a couple of quid to £50 each time and I’m really glad I’ve been talking myself out of some of these impulse buys lately because I’ve actually forgotten about them within a week.

Buying Discounted

If there is profit to be made in every sale the discount will come eventually. Fashions and trends change so quickly that new products are always being introduced and the old ones need to be pushed out. There are very small cases in which this isn’t the case but for the high street it happens multiple times in a year.

I’m not one for needing the latest trend and I have a simple style so I’ve learned that I can wait for pieces to reach the sale and I don’t feel the need to stay updated all the time which does my purse strings a great deal of good.

For the things that aren’t so quick to reach the sale. Skincare for example tends to stay at a price point and if anything increase over time with taxes or gains in popularity. Skincare and beauty also aren’t such trend led products so have longer shelf life. This is where I don’t mind spending a little more where I have to but even so there are often discount websites, coupon codes and the very occasional sale throughout the year to keep our eyes peeled for. I no longer put my money into products I don’t need or haven’t done my research on.

Outlet Shopping

These are a tricky one. Most of the time outlet stock is leftover pieces. On the rare occasion a line has been made for the lower price point to go specifically to the outlet store. It’s about knowing this, what there is and what it’s really worth.

I am personally a huge fan of outlet shopping, see above where I’m not trend led so don’t care if I’m a season (or few) behind, if I like a piece I like it. There are discounts to be had from the usual RRP of items or a certain brand and if I can get a better quality/brand piece at a cheaper price then of course, why not?

When I Do Buy Full Price

Support small business. There may be one or two members of a small business trying to keep their new company afloat and they don’t want to be asked if there are any discounts. If they have any end of line stock they’ll announce it.

Food. From the supermarket, farm shop or in restaurants. Full price is often the only option.

As a gift. If someone has specifically asked for something, I will get them that. I won’t go out of my way to get them a gift (that they might not want) just because it was cheaper/in the sale. If they didn’t want the new gift then it was a waste of money anyway.

When I value the item its worth. If an item has been incredibly well made and designed and I can see where the value is then I of course will pay the asking price (but my standards are high so it has to be good).

Let me know if your a savvy saver or if you’ll take anything on board from this post, I’d love to chat about it.

How I came to start my sustainability journey

I’ve been blogging for years now and never really settled on my content. There’s lots of topics I love don’t get me wrong. I love interiors, beauty and fashion and I started out as a lifestyle blogger mainly talking about skincare but each topic didn’t quite sit well with me in the long run. When I realised what it was I couldn’t believe I hadn’t thought of it before and I would have started making more sustainable choices ages ago.

A few years ago when blogging about my beauty purchases or a new outfit I’d just bought I was becoming increasingly aware of how much I was buying. I was accumulating stuff that I wasn’t using because I was buying more stuff on top. I also felt like I couldn’t stop because I’d have nothing to write about. If I didn’t do reviews or be seen to be having the latest thing then people wouldn’t be interested. If I didn’t have photos taken in new clothes all the time people wouldn’t appreciate my content. If I wasn’t adding or buying new home decor people would get bored. This of course isn’t the case and the people that value the same things you do will stay, no matter what you wear, what products you use or what your house looks like. It’s the other kinds of value you bring to the table. Not the ‘stuff’ but the qualities that make you as a person.

So after a little social media break I thought about what things I actually valued. And it wasn’t the unworn clothes I’d bought on a whim. It wasn’t the multiple unused beauty products filling drawers. And it wasn’t the shelves looking cluttered and truly adding a little stress to my life. I’m not one for too many bits and pieces on show and I actually prefer items to be tucked away in a proper place. I’ve found that too much home clutter tends to take up head space too.

In more recent months the term ‘fast fashion’ has been mentioned a lot and after undertaking some research of my own I did find that some of my wardrobe pieces do fit into that category. I also researched ingredients that go into beauty products, where our rubbish goes and the effect of plastic on the environment. I found that I wanted to change some of my habits. I found that I wanted to only pay for what I really value.

Loren stood in the woods in a dark green coat with her hood up smiling to the camera

On another personal note I’ve always had a taste for a little luxury. I like a well made bag, I like an embroidered, detailed dress. I like beauty buys that provide me with an air of visiting a spa. Higher quality loves don’t have to always come with the price tag but when they do, one item of better quality could be worth 10 of another. Buying one gorgeous dress that I can wear 30 times plus could come to the same cost as buying 5 new dresses that can only be worn once or twice. I used to gasp at a coat that my husband has that cost £250+ at the time, yet after around 8 years he still wears it constantly and it has been incredibly well looked after.

When I added more items in my home it made it so I was constantly taking bags to the charity shop and stressing about the ‘already too many things’ I had kept. With education and research on top of this I began to get concerned about where my thrown out items were actually going. My aim to streamline my collections also became about making my purchases more sustainable in the long run.

So I started my journey to becoming more sustainable in my purchases and really thinking about what I bring into my home. I now ask myself, do I need it? Will I use it? What effect does it have on the planet? Could I purchase it secondhand? Can I use something I already have?

I’m not going to stop buying as I don’t believe that’s the answer. There is enough money in retail to keep it going and each price point serves a purpose. What I am going to do is minimise and value what I do buy. Purchase quality items from brands whose values I can agree with and where I am happy to put my money to essentially continue that work.

Have you made any changes to the way you make purchases or the products you’re buying?

Loren smiling at the camera with her coat hood up

Photos by Jade Pogson Photography

My 3 Intentions for 2021

Firstly, Happy New Year!

Secondly, these aren’t the classic New Year resolutions, they’re intentions. I want these to be more like lifestyle changes rather than actual targets to achieve as this way they will last longer and will simply become part of my routine and the way I live. There are also figures out there that state New Year Resolutions are broken in the first few months of the year and as these intentions have no number and no end goal there is room for growth. There is also no win and no fail when it comes to the intentions I have set myself as they are simply guidelines of the changes I’d like to make, starting in this new year. 

To consume consciously. 

I speak about buying consciously a lot on the blog but I love New Years to start fresh with my intentions. This year I want to keep track of my purchases and keep a spending diary to see what and where I’m buying from most often. I plan on making all of my collections smaller in 2021 and to help with this I think a spending diary is a great idea to review every so often. 

Consuming consciously for me also means researching the brands I feel comfortable buying from and putting my money where my mouth is when it comes to wanting to make progressive changes when it comes to brand ethics and values on sustainability. 

To live in the present. 

This one is very important to me and maybe one of the most difficult. Even though going about the day sounds like one of the easiest things to do actually being present and enjoying the moments to remember can be tricky. I am not only writing these intentions here but I am also writing them on a piece of paper to have on my mirror to remind myself that every day is precious in one way or another and to live in the present and live life to its fullest potential. I understand that some days are going to be a little more mundane than others but that’s all part of it.

New 2021 diary with goals and intentions

To schedule time for self care. 

If 2020 has taught me anything it is the fact that self care is very important. I love the saying ‘you can’t pour from an empty cup’ as it is quite true. Self care can be as simple as brushing teeth in the morning right through to taking part in a class it just depends on perspective and what there is time for. I know that I am lucky enough to probably schedule 20 minutes for myself every day and will likely choose to read, listen to a guided meditation or spend 20 minutes on my skin as these are all things I like to do simply for me. 

I look forward to checking in every four months to see where I am with each of these intentions and to see if they have diverted from course or if they have slipped easily into my routine. 

Have you set any intentions for 2021?

The Sustainable Products I’ll Never Buy

It’s kind of understood that people should ‘never say never’ however here I am saying that there are some products that are in the sustainable, eco friendly market that I will never buy. Whatever you buy you’re bringing something into your home so first of all let’s make sure you either need it, love it or will use it. This even includes items that are sold as sustainable or eco friendly options to help the environment but even still I refuse to buy them.

Reusable Kitchen Towels

If it looks like a cloth and it acts like a cloth it’s more than likely a cloth. In disguise. I can not explain how much seeing ‘reusable kitchen towels’ annoys me because we’ve had them for ages and they’re either called dish cloths, tea towels, cloth napkins and yes let’s even go there, rags. Let’s not put a new product into the world, using even more fabric and give it a new name to make it sound sustainable. Also I have never bought kitchen roll in the almost six years we’ve owned our own house and you know what, we’ve managed.

Bamboo Toothbrush

Ok, I’ve kind of calmed down now. I get that this replaces the standard plastic toothbrush as the bamboo handle can be recycled which is a great idea. I just love my electric toothbrush too much to go back now. I have seen sustainable replacement toothbrush head options but haven’t made the jump as I’m stocked up but this could be a future option. As for the bamboo, you can keep the manual.

Bamboo Cutlery Set

Is it just me that has never found themselves needing a cutlery set whilst out and about? Everywhere I have eaten has cutlery and if it has plastic options I’m sure it’s food I can eat with my hands. In work situations they have more often than not supplied cutlery. And if I ever have wanted to take my own, well, I took the good old fashioned ones out of the kitchen drawer.

Face Cleansing Pads

It’s a FLANNEL.

But please let me expand. The classic, lowly flannel has been around for yeeeaars and yet here we are now making them into circles therefore creating more waste. Fabric doesn’t come in circle shapes it has to be cut that way, so where does the waste fabric go? Answer. In the bin. They also tend to have fancy fabric (to make them more appealing than a sad uni-coloured flannel) on the back and thus providing us with more waste. They’re good for micellar water I hear you say? Don’t even get me started.

Sustainable Recycled Loo Roll

I would love to be able to afford sustainable paper to throw down the toilet. That’s the ultimate definition of luxury.

Let me know if you agree with any of these sustainable options or if you disagree come and tell me how you’ll change my mind! You can find me here in the comments or over on Instagram.

Loren looking at the camera wearing a cream jumper, sustainable living, eco friendly

Image by Jade Pogson Photography

What ‘Buy Consciously’ means to me

I’m talking more and more about how I want to ‘buy consciously not constantly’ so today I thought I’d expand a little on what I actually mean by it. It’s quite a wide variety of intentions summed up in a short phrase so here we go.

Sustainability

When I can browse the rails in charity shops, I will. When I can find just the right top secondhand online or find a sustainable brand that has exactly what I wanted of course I’m going to make that sustainable decision. I really don’t like the idea of people being underpaid to make things or tonnes of perfectly good items going to landfill and where possible I do intend to shop more sustainably, thinking about my carbon footprint and what I want to be putting out into the world and bringing into my home. This also goes for the packaging of products and the companies values in how they approach sustainability. I don’t doubt it’s not always going to be easy as there will be occasions where I see something whilst out and about that I love. The idea isn’t to stop buying altogether just to buy less often and buy quality pieces that will last.

Shop Small Business

Shopping local and small business has been so prevalent this year and I am very much on board. I love the idea of someone creating something and putting themselves out there. It can be super scary to start up on your own but once your making the sales and see people are loving your work it’s amazing. The small business happy dance is real and I intend to shop small where I can, not just for Christmas but throughout the year. I find that when shopping independently you get a great service and those little extra touches you can’t get on the high street. People are out there creating their dreams and if I can support that and purchase a little something in the process then that’s great news all round.

I Very Rarely Pay Full Price

Obviously not with the above small business I have just spoken about but the bigger players have bigger margins. Please argue if you know better but a lot of the time (mainly in fashion) the margin is big and end of line/season sales are regular. There are also other ways to save even just a little bit of money whether that’s reward schemes, cash back incentives or a good old fashioned outlet store. I would say that my spending on clothes is 90% discounted from RRP and 10% bought full price. The more money I can keep in my own pocket the better.

Cruelty Free/Vegan

Not everything comes with a vegan alternative (yet!) but if I had two identical items in front of me I would of course go for the cruelty free or vegan option. There are so many animal products and by products used in items nowadays that it can take some research to find but alternatives are available for many products out now and more are being made all the time. The higher the demand gets the more important and readily available vegan and cruelty free options will become.

With everything in the news about items going to landfill it’s hard not to want to make a change to shopping habits and in short I intend to buy less, buy quality and buy ethically. I’m also going to keep a spending diary in 2021 to check in at the end of the year so keep your eyes peeled for updates on how I’m doing.

Do you do any of these now? Would you say you shop consciously or not so much just yet? Come over to chat more about buying consciously on Instagram or here in the comments.

Images by Jade Pogson Photography

Sustainable Shaving Using Estrid

A few weeks ago now the Estrid razor was everywhere. Almost every YouTuber I watched was doing some kind of collaboration with them advertising how great they were but it is quite difficult through a screen to know if something will actually work for you so it took me a while to commit to a purchase.

Let’s start there, ‘Sustainable Shaving’ is actually a thing. Cruelty free shaving is actually a thing. Two things that have never crossed my mind as I was chucking a pack of razors into my trolley on the weekly shop. We’ve all heard of cruelty free make up and how some products are tested on animals but some razors also use animal products in the hydrating/soothing strip. There are so many other natural solutions known in the world right now that this doesn’t have to still be the case.

Another sustainable selling point for me was the handle of the razor. Made of steel and with replacement heads sent as often, or not, as you need them it is made to last a lot longer than the plastic version where the whole razor (and plastic packaging) gets thrown away each time. Which brings me on to the packaging. Cardboard, chic and completely recyclable, need I say more?

Once I had decided to go for it and see if they lived up to their hype I went online to pick the colour of the handle and the frequency of my razor deliveries. Two sets of blades came with the initial package and then the refills will arrive in four sets how ever often you’d like them to.

When it actually came to using the razor I found it so different to ones I had used before. It is definitely slightly heavier to use but this only adds to its quality feel. The shave itself was incredibly smooth and exactly what most female targeted razor brands are missing. I’ve found mens razors to give a much closer shave but many of those also face the same issues as female aimed brands with their values.

I am 100% continuing my subscription with Estrid and would love them to release more products in line with their company ethics. I have seen that they do a few body products available to members and would love to try these in the future but for now a close, sustainable shave is exactly what I signed up for and what I’m getting.

How to Sustainably Shop Black Friday

Anyone else getting emails left, right and centre about the latest Black Friday offers? Yep, me too. I think it is a great way of saving a bit of money on Christmas gifts which I’m sure is something no one would turn their nose up at but there are a few ways we can be more sustainable when it comes to purchases this year. I love shopping in the sales and often get tempted on things I would have never bought initially but I’ve put together some ideas on how we can shop more sustainably and maybe saving some cash in the process. 

Will it get used? 

If you’re buying a gift for someone else or a little something to treat yourself after a difficult year think if the item will actually get the use it deserves. Not only will the cost per use go down it won’t go to the bin anytime soon and the user/you will really appreciate it. That goes for anything from homewares (will it be loved?), clothes (will they be worn?) and skincare (will they be used up?). If the answer is yes, then great! That is a conscious gift giving decision. 

Think Packaging

Companies really need to stop putting their gift sets together in plastic packaging. I am mainly thinking of those beauty gift sets that come in plastic moulded packaging. This could easily be swapped for a little reusable gift bag or using recyclable cardboard instead. It would be great to have unwrapped everything on Christmas Day and actually have no wrapping or packaging that couldn’t be recycled. Big companies really need to be looking at this but for now I guess it’s down to us to make the decisions. 

Support Small Business

This year more than ever there has been a focus on shopping and supporting small businesses. When we initially went into lockdown we were shopping small to keep the businesses local to us and now we’re shopping small to make them do a little happy dance this Christmas. Shopping small also often means making eco friendly choices as they in turn only buy and use what they need, use more sustainable options in their packaging and don’t have large processes that use up many resources. 

Great or Waste

How often are we tempted by an item just because it’s on sale? Making a conscious purchase also means thinking about whether we would have actually bought the item if it wasn’t on sale to figure out if we do actually want it. Do you normally buy from the brand? Did you need/want the item before Black Friday? If not then consider whether it is a great saving or a waste of money. If you need a little reminder save the post I made here.

Let me know if any of this helps with shopping more sustainably this Black Friday and if you want more inspiration check out my Creating Sustainable Shopping Habits post. 

Why slow living doesn’t mean missing out

You know those minimalist shots that you see on Instagram or those ideas in your head that slow living is all second hand, mismatched and old? Well I’m saying it doesn’t have to be. I’m a little unsure as to why it’s even been portrayed in this way and it took me a while to get on board with the idea in case one day I went shopping and didn’t buy from all 100% eco friendly brands. I’m a huge fan of heading to charity shops and buying secondhand from online marketplaces but sometimes you just see something that you want to buy. That only you have had. So here I am, on a slow living journey of my own. When I say this let me give you a little more detail.

I LOVE clothes shopping. I have a few favourite stores of course and we live close to the standard high street brands that you see everywhere so I tend to head there if I need anything new. I am also a fan of a good brand name as to me it usually says quality and time spent creating a product but that’s not how ‘slow living’ is perceived on social media so I wouldn’t ‘fit in’ with the usual photos of wooden stools and unread vintage books. A brand name handbag is probably one of the last things you’d find on a slow living blog and whilst not a bad thing it doesn’t really portray the baby steps we need to start off with. You can’t take a world full of fast fashion straight into second-hand or similarly take a nation from food delivery apps to home grown, home made apple pie bakers. What I’m saying is slow living isn’t a trend or a certain style, it’s a way of life and shouldn’t have a specific look. Not everything can be perfect from the beginning.

When it comes to clothes I simply want to buy less and when I do purchase something I want it to be better quality, take care of it and not think of it as disposable. I also love handbags but I don’t need loads so I can save up for a quality piece that could last a lifetime and that right there is slow fashion. The same goes for most purchases I intend (or don’t intend) to make going forward.

There are also some great brands where their values completely match with your own yet sometimes they might not have exactly what you need so you have to go elsewhere. There once was a time when I would feel guilty about not doing better for the environment when making a purchase but you can’t hold yourself accountable for climate change alone and over time I realised this. I could choose to shop solely secondhand forever but if I saw a great dress when shopping on the high street I wouldn’t want to deprive myself of it. I just wouldn’t do it multiple times a month.

It is also about finding the brands that have their quality and values. Some of the big brands have great sustainability programmes in place and some are making changes in a positive direction. By putting money and making purchases in a specific area you’re showing you want more of that thing. For example if you shopped the eco range at a high street brand you’re showing that you want more of those products with those values. Same again if you shop at a small eco store for some items you’re also helping that business to grow and offer more options in the future.

So really when choosing the sustainable route it doesn’t mean missing out on something. It means thinking about the purchase and considering the options. If the options don’t work on that occasion try next time. Small steps lead to a bigger lifestyle change. We shouldn’t have to feel like we’re doing the wrong thing if we’re trying to start making a difference and like I mentioned previously we can only do our best with what is on offer. If anything we should be doing it’s respecting our values and making conscious decisions which, in turn, is what slow living is about.

Images by Jade Pogson Photography

Creating Sustainable Shopping Habits

The word ‘sustainable’ is cropping up more and more recently and with good reason. We buy too much for the environment to keep up with and it is causing an impact that we can not continue with safely. That is partly why I am looking at my own shopping habits and have decided that where possible I want to start changing these to choosing more sustainable options.

Shopping is a part of our society and I love going out and browsing the rails and treating myself to a new dress or cushion for the living room and because I enjoy this I don’t want to stop altogether and I don’t think that’s the answer. I do however aim to make some changes in what I buy, how often I buy and where I buy from. Thinking about sustainability when I make a purchase will help me to make a more conscious decision than I might have previously.

The What

This, obviously enough, refers to what I’m physically purchasing. Do I need it? Have I got something like it? If the answer is yes then I probably shouldn’t be buying it. However sometimes, and this probably goes for a lot of people, I will want to buy it anyway. This isn’t a bad thing, it just depends on how often these choices are being made. Once every few months is ok by my standards but if my shopping habits became ignorant every week or so then that wouldn’t be very sustainable. So, purchases from now on will be thought through and if I don’t need/won’t use something to it’s full potential, then I don’t need to buy it.

The How Often. 

Like mentioned above how often purchases are made is pretty important. Do I need a new occasion dress every week? Nope (especially now). Do I even need a new outfit every week? Nope, I can wear something I’ve already got. This can be referred to even outside of clothing. When it comes to skincare, is a new facemask really needed or should I use up the ones I’ve got? When putting sustainability at the forefront of your mind the answer is pretty easy. I shouldn’t need to purchase something new unless it’s running out or is completely different.

Loren smiling at the camera wearing a white polo neck jumper

The Where

Do the places I am shopping from have the same values as myself? Are they working towards more sustainable processes or finding ways to become more sustainable? If not then do I want to shop there? There are plenty of large and small business’ that are thinking about and making moves to better their environmental impact so it’s not hard to find a product on the market that fits with your values a little more. Again I’m not preaching that we only shop at eco friendly stores now because we don’t, but the change I am making is to buy less. Buy less and buy better. Buying better quality items (and looking after them) means they may just last longer. You may find yourself taking better care of them because they cost more and they will have less environmental impact than buying 10 of the same top as they feel more disposable.

Are you thinking more about creating sustainable shopping habits? Let me know!

Photography by Jade Pogson Photography

Some Thoughts on Turning 30

In less than two weeks I will be 30. That sentence in itself seems wild. I feel like I’ve celebrated being 22 for the past 8 years and 30 seems so far away. Except it’s not anymore. It’s quite close. So I thought I’d pop a few thoughts down on how I feel about the number. I mean I know it’s just that, a number but it’s the ‘things’ I thought I’d have by the time I reached that number.

I don’t have the high flying city slick career that I thought I would have if you would have asked me 10 years ago. I don’t have the 3 children that I planned (by the age of 26 actually) and we’re not in the home that I would consider our forever home.

I’m not sad about any of that, just amused by how younger Loren thought her life would pan out and what it would look like as I was turning 30.

Sometimes when it comes out of the blue the thought of turning 30 catches in my throat a little. When it does a small wave of panic hits me and my face contorts into sheer surprise, like I didn’t know what number came after 29. I can only guess that this is society’s view on the age (from years ago I don’t doubt) and me listening to what society has led me to believe. It is not actually how I feel because it quickly shifts and I’m fine with it.

I also made a list of all the things I wanted to do in the year 2020, places to go and things to do, however the year 2020 happened and we were all caught short. As far as I know though nothing is stopping me from doing those things in October, even October 2021 maybe! Fingers crossed I’ll still be ticking off great life experiences in 2060. I’ve figured there isn’t really a timeline to have certain things done by, certain situations that may include biology and science yes, but nothing that should keep us worrying and wanting to “keep up with the Jones’”

I know heaps of people that are turning 30 in the next year or so and are at a completely different stage in their life. They may have a home, they may live with their parents. They may be well on with their career and climbing up the ladder where others may be switching careers and starting from scratch. Some may have travelled and some may be waiting until they retire for that. Some may have 4 kids and some may decide they prefer dogs. It’s each to their own and no timeline runs exactly the same and the more people I know the more this comes to light. Even the people you see that ‘have it all’ in your eyes can surprise you with a new or different view on their own circumstance. They might actually want something that you have or to change a matter in their life that you would deem great already. It’s about that perspective.

This goes to show that nothing is ever really ‘normal’ and the only pressure around is pressure you put on yourself.

One thing I catch myself doing is when I let myself be overwhelmed at a younger persons success. ‘So and so is only 25 and has this, this and this’. Yes they do but they might not have ‘this and this’ and even if they have, so what? There are billions of people on the planet and that is one person. They may have taken a different route to you because, you guessed it, everyone is on their own path.

I’ve definitely learnt 30 shouldn’t be taken as a milestone to have achieved certain things by a certain time. It should just be like turning 29 or 31. Come to think of it 2020 made me miss a year so I might re-do being 29, anyone else?